In the family, the Bible says, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church, and then he adds, “and gave Himself for it.” The husband’s role is not to dominate his wife. His role is to give himself to her so that he can earn the opportunity to be like God to her. God made the woman out of the man. Together, the two of them became one image of what God looks like. That is amazing stuff. Paul calls it a mystery because it has to be unveiled. You have to see it from the eternal perspective.
The Bible makes a case for the family name to stay in the earth through the son. That’s a sovereign issue. Every person conceived in the womb, whether male or female, relates to God’s sovereignty but the Bible places an emphasis on a son. That is because in creative order God created the man first and then He made the woman from the man. That was a priority in the eyes of God. It doesn’t mean that the man has greater value. It simply means that in His sovereignty God determined that this would be the order of His creation. Genesis 5:2 says that God “called their name Adam.” When a couple gets married, the preacher says at the end of the ceremony, “Ladies and gentlemen, I now present to you, Mr. and Mrs. Wellington Boone.” The two have become one with the surname of Boone.
Isaiah prophesied about John the Baptist when he said, “Every valley shall be exalted, and every mountain and hill shall be made low: and the crooked shall be made straight, and the rough places plain” (Isaiah 40:4 KJV). When you interpret that on an eternal level, you can say that Jesus came to straighten out crooks. That is everyone who is crooked on the inside in their mentality. They are not walking on the straight and narrow. We all need to fix things inside that we have been getting wrong. It could be the way that we handle money. It could be the way that we handle relationships.
I served in Vietnam in 1968 and after I was discharged I moved to Baltimore. My friend was a CPA and we both had apartments in one of those high rises. When we got together, we’d be profiling and listening to jazz, even though I don’t like jazz, smoking marijuana and getting high. We’d say, “Ummm, that’s killer!” We would be talking about philosophy or something and then after about the third hit I would get confused and say, “What was I saying?” I was losing my memory while I was getting high.
I heard a former U.S. President’s wife, who claims to be a Christian, make a statement about this present President. She said, “I will never forgive him.” However, the basic premise for access to God and conversion to Christ is forgiveness. The reason for her unforgiveness was something that this present President said concerning her daughters and her husband that put her children in danger. However, she didn’t realize that what she said had eternal implications.
A century ago some Christian men met in the United States and the U.K. to define basic premises by which we should live out this Christian walk. They did not meet for motivational conferences like we have today. They knew this thing had to be real so they wanted to define some distinguishing factors.